we get one chance at this life.
what would you do with your one chance in order to live without regret?
*be specific. “travel more” is vague. “spend time drinking coffee in vienna’s coffee houses to better understand the value of pace” is specific, achievable and has meaning.
this question is one that my wife and i are in the process of discussing. because of this type of question we’ve begun to make changes in our daily life in order to free up space to better dream for our future. something that came up for us was that in order to live without regret we’d continually learn to love each other well. generally, that’s vague. so, we went further. what needs to happen for us to better love each other? we need to create space to be with one another. so, we decided to unplug our tv so that we can have more time to discuss what we’re reading, try out a new recipe or just talk. we’re not 100% no tv people, but by unplugging the tube we now have ask if there’s space to watch a certain show (usually a day late on the laptop). sometimes the answer is yes, and others it’s no.
the space we’re creating has already freed us up to have what seem like longer evenings together. by better connecting i find myself more likely to hold my tongue rather than saying something stupid. so, by creating space i’m learning to be more thoughtful with my words, more intentional with my time, etc.
additionally, living without regret for me involves continually learning. again, that’s vague. so, i tightened it up and said i want to read more. again, vague. even tighter. i want to read 2 non-fiction books a month. i know, it’s not an overwhelming goal, but it needed to be measurable and achievable. well, i’m a bit ahead of schedule. i’m at 29 books since january 1st. some of those titles are listed on the right side of this page.
working toward my wife and i loving each other well had the added benefit of creating space for developing a habit of being a learner. i wonder if there are other areas that will work in parallel. by creating space to connect we’re creating space to discover what it is that we’d do and how it is that we’d live without regret.