It was a few years ago that I began to wake to a feeling of mediocrity. It is hard to describe, but it was there. So, I looked up the word mediocre and found it to be defined as “of only moderate quality; not very good”. Feeling of moderate quality was bothersome, but it was a few of the synonyms that bothered me more: uninspired, indifferent, pedestrian, prosaic. I had been living indifferently. I had taken a pedestrian approach to my life, my faith, my finances, my relationships. I was prosaic. I was definitely uninspired, but I wanted something more…much more. I began to understand that mediocrity is an internal and personal judgement. Only I know if I’m giving my life a mediocre effort. A healthy fear or mediocrity began to develop in me. Fear of not making changes that would lead to a life more fully engaged. me·di·o·cre·pho·bi·a is a fear of an uninspired life, a life without drive or purpose. But it’s not just a fear, it’s a purposeful drive to experience and connect with extraordinary people, places, ideas and organizations.
3 years ago my wife and I made some extraordinary changes in our life. We were completely broke when we got married. I was in grad school and she was teaching. I left grad school with $60,000 in school and car debt, stress in our young marriage and an extra 25lbs. We were overwhelmed by the weight of debt and struggled to discover what it is we wanted to do with our lives and how to live out our faith. Our hopes and dreams were overshadowed by debt and, by necessity, our decisions were driven to manage our debt load. We were both fearfully isolating from each other. We chose to make significant changes to our situation and were able to pay off the entire debt balance in 21 months, reconnect with each other, develop healthy habits and experience some great adventures. We’ve been able to travel all over the country to connect with family and friends. We’ve traveled to great parts of the world to learn from and experience other cultures. We’ve gotten back into shape and trained for and raced marathons, half marathons, Ironman and Half Ironman triathlons and a variety of other distances. The changes we made we’ve maintained and have been able to enjoy encouraging others on the path to improved health and relationships (personal and spiritual), financial freedom, adventure and discovery. More importantly, we’ve been able to encourage others to create space to discover and pursue their dreams. We’ve found ourselves asking big questions of faith, of the person of Jesus and finding God’s great capacity to handle our inquiry and open us to knowing Christ in new ways.
This blog is a space where I hope to work out and share some of my story, challenges faced, lessons learned, questions I’m pondering and thoughts on a variety of topics. I believe intentionality in relationships, faith, personal finance and motivation are imperative when it comes to living well.
A bit about me:
I’m in my mid 30s and am married to an amazing woman. Together we’re making an adventure of this life.
I have a background in both business and counseling, masters degrees in both. I think and write from these two perspectives on personal finance, relationships, motivation and education. I read…a lot, and will often share what I’m learning from different authors and a wide variety of perspectives. My hope is to take what I’ve learned and am continuing to learn to encourage others to take action in their lives to move toward inquiry of the person of Jesus, financial freedom, a healthy life and healthy relationships.
Thanks for reading,